You feel happiest when you create a healthy balance between giving and receiving. If you give and give 小题1:w_______making time to fill your own needs, then it's likely you will小题2:b_______ out, or feel upset. When you take and take without giving anything back, you never feel fulfilled , so you are always 小题3:s___________ for ways to fill the void in your life.

The way to create a healthy balance between giving and receiving is to know and then live by your values. I 小题4:d_______ values into two groups which I call being and having values. Your being values are the personalities of the小题5:i________ person you would like to be. I suggest to my clients that they choose three being values that they are小题6:w__________ to make a promise to live by. An小题7:e____________ of some being values are: kind, loving, generous, peaceful, wise and even powerful. By 小题8:a__________ on these values you give to others through your actions and you小题9:i_________ others by being a positive role model. Mastering being these personalities becomes your life 小题10:p__________.

Your having values are the feelings you need to create in order to be小题11:h_________. These could be companionship, 小题12:a_____________,support, being valued or financial security. This is what you receive. You take responsibility for filling your own needs by taking 小题13:s________ to create these feelings and conditions in your life.

When you make a promise to live by your being values, it becomes easier to make conscious(慎重的) choices 小题14:r________ than reactionary(反动的) ones. If your usual pattern is to talk about your problems, you could小题15:c_________ to think and act like a calm person. A calm person might go for a walk, or set a time 小题16:l_________ before responding. If your usual pattern is to worry, you could choose to act小题17:l_________ a responsible or wise person. In other words, you would act like the person you choose to be---this is the小题18:k_________ to personal power.

　　When you choose to act on your values, you not only feel good about yourself, you小题19:s_________ your chosen beliefs. Over time acting in this way changes how you see the world, and in小题20:t_______ the way other people think of you.