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      Recently, one of my best friends, whom I've shared just about everything with since the first day

of kindergarten, spent the weekend with me. Since I moved to a new town several years ago, we've

both always looked forward to the few times a year when we can see each other.

     Over the weekend, we spent hours and hours, staying up late into the night, talking about the people

she was hanging around with. She started telling me stories about her new boyfriend, about how he

experimented with drugs and was into other selfdestructive behaviour. I was blown away! She told me

how she had been lying to her parents about where she was going and even stealing out to see this guy

because they didn't want her around him. No matter how hard I tried to tell her that she deserved better,

she didn't believe me. Her selfrespect seemed to have disappeared.

     I tried to convince her that she was ruining her future and heading for big trouble. I felt like I was  

getting nowhere. I just couldn't believe that she really  thought it was acceptable to hang out with a bunch

of losers, especially her boyfriend.

     By the time she left, I was really worried about her and exhausted by the experience. It had been so

frustrating, I had come close to telling her several times during the weekend that maybe we had just

grown too far apart to continue our friendship, but I didn't. I put the power of friendship to the final test.

We'd been friends for far too long. I had to hope that she valued me enough to know that I was trying to

save her from hurting herself. I wanted to believe that our friendship could conquer anything.

     A few days later, she called to say that she had thought long and hard about our conversation, and

then she told me that she had broken up with her boyfriend. I just listened on the other end of the phone

with tears of joy running down my face. It was one of the truly rewarding moments in my life. Never had

I been so proud of a friend.

1. In the writer's opinion, her friend ________.

A. was a girl with no selfrespect

B. could find a better boyfriend

C. was brave enough to stick  to her own choice

D. didn't value the writer's suggestion

2. What did the writer worry about?

A. She would lose the friendship with her.

B. Her friend's parents would be worried about their daughter.

C. Her friend would get into great trouble with the boy.

D. Her friend's boyfriend would be in great trouble.

3. We may learn from Paragraph 3 that the writer________.

A. didn't want to go anywhere else

B. understood her friend's hanging with her boyfriend

C. couldn't  believe  that  her  friend's  choice  was acceptable

D. doubted that she could in any way help her friend

4. What can be concluded from the passage?

A. Friendship starting from childhood is not reliable.

B. Friendship is a cure for any injury in life.

C. Friendship should be everlasting once begun.

D. Friendship can have magical power in life.

答案

1-4: BCDD

多项选择题

求助者:女性,27岁,公司职员。

案例介绍:求助者经常和父母、同事、客户发生矛盾,不合群,人际关系紧张。最近又因琐事与同事发生矛盾,很生气,也为此痛苦,主动来心理咨询。

下面是心理咨询师与该求助者的一段对话:心理咨询师:你认为你生气的原因是什么?求助者:主要是和同事搞不好关系,有些人总爱挑我的毛病,我比较能干,在公司的业绩不错,别人嫉妒我,就常常因为一些小事和我过不去。心理咨询师:是别人挑你的毛病,造成你生气吗?

求助者:那当然是,如果别人不挑我的毛病,我怎么会生气?

心理咨询师:我们来看一个例子,假若某一天,你在咖啡店里喝咖啡,这时走过来一个人把你的咖啡碰洒了,你会怎样想?

求助者:我会很生气,这个人怎么这样不小心。

心理咨询师:但如果你知道他是个盲人,你又会怎样呢?求助者:盲人啊……盲人是看不见的,我想我会原谅他。心理咨询师:你看,咖啡洒了,同一个事件,但由于不同的认知结果,你就会产生不同的情绪。所以,对事物的认知,才是引起情绪的真正原因。求助者:是这样吗?沉默你说的好像有道理。

心理咨询师:人对生活中发生的事件都会有些看法,有的是合理的,有的是不合理的,不同的认知会导致不同的情绪状态。如果你认识到自己现在的情绪状态是一些不合理的认知所造成的,通过改变它,你就能控制自己的情绪。

求助者:真会这样吗?

心理咨询师:你遇到的那些事,别人也可能遇到,但别人不一定都像你现在这样子,你说这是怎么回事?

求助者:你是说我和他们的认识不一样吗?可我还没看出我对别人挑我毛病的认识有哪些不合理的地方。

心理咨询师:这正是下一步要讨论的问题。你冷静地想一下,你和同事关系很紧张的原因是什么?

求助者:那些人总爱挑我的毛病。

心理咨询师:你不许人家挑你毛病的理由是什么呢?

求助者:我工作做得好,客户多,他们凭什么挑我的毛病?

心理咨询师:你可以希望别人不挑你的毛病,但你不能不许别人挑你的毛病。求助者:对别人不能提出要求吗?

心理咨询师:可以对别人提出要求。但是你若要求你对别人怎样,别人就应该对你怎样,这就是一种不合理的信念、一种绝对化的要求,因为我们无法要求别人必须为我们做什么。如果我们把对别人的“要求”变成“希望”,当我们不希望的事发生时,最多是一种失望,不会过分地怨恨别人,自己也就不会生气了。

求助者:您讲的很对,但我担心自己做不到这点。您说这毛病能改吗?

心理咨询师:你的问题是长期形成的,要想很快地改变是困难的。但是只要在实践中不断地改变,从一点一滴做起,出现反复时,不要灰心,贵在坚持,一定会达到理想的效果。

“你认为你生气的原因是什么?”这里心理咨询师使用了()。

A、开放式提问

B、具体化技术

C、封闭式提问

D、责备性问题

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