We do some strange things when we don’t like the way our life is going．Too often we blame(责怪)someone else．‘‘I wish my parents were more understanding．”
“I have such a bad Chemistry teacher!”
“My friends are so boring and self-centered．They make my life worse and worse．’’
Blame! Blame! Blame!
It seems natural to sing this self-pitying song，but the truth is，if you don’t like your life，you should do something about it．No one else knows exactly how you feel or what you need．No one can read your mind correctly．You are the only one with the power to cheek your life，and if you want it to be different，you can change what you’re doing．
When you’re in trouble，don’t give away your power to decide how you feel about yourself. Choose how you want to think and act．Other people can’t make you unhappy or angry．They only act in their own way and then it’s up to you to decide how you will respond(回应)．For example，your friends go out to lunch without you and you feel very angry．How are you going to act? You may blame your friends，“They are not kind．Who needs them anyway?” Or you may tell your friends how you feel，listen to their explanation，and let them know you’d like to be invited next time．
When you decide everything in your own way，you’re getting hold of your own life and shaping(塑造)it according to your tastes and feelings．You can choose to be happy，to make friends and to build an interesting life．When you blame others for what is or isn’t happening in your life，you have stopped growing or learning．
One of the most important rules is that you can never change another person by your direct action．The only person you have the right to change is yourself．Once you change，the other person has something different to respond to and change is possible．If you want change in your life，begin with yourself．
小题1:What should we do if we don’t like our life?
A．Change what we’re doing．
B．Read our minds correctly．
C．Sing that self-pitying song．
D．Tell others what we want．小题2:If the writer’s friends have dinner together without him，he may _________.
A．ask somebody else to talk to them
B．do the same thing to them in return
C．talk to them and try to find out why
D．forget it and be still friendly with them小题3:What’s the writer’s idea about how to change others?
A．He thinks it’s impossible to change others．
B．He believes our love can change everything．
C．He chooses to talk with others directly．
D．He prefers to change ourselves first instead．小题4:At the beginning of the passage three examples are given __________.
A．to support the idea that people often blame others
B．to suggest that there are various problems in people’s life
C．to show that not all chemistry teachers are fit for their job
D．to explain the reason why some people’s life is worse and worse小题5:What’s the best title of the passage?
A．Blame! Blame! Blame!
B．Who Controls My Life?
C．Change! Change! Change!
D．What Makes Me Unhappy?
