问题 选择题

小明是班上最不受欢迎的人,你推测,下列哪一项是他让大家"讨厌"的原因

A.太沉默,只有少数人和他说过话

B.太喜欢谈论军事知识

C.学习太用功,不会打篮球,不会打扑克

D.满口脏话,粗话多

答案

答案:D

题目分析:小明之所以成为班上最不受欢迎的人,可见其素质与人品上存在一定的问题。ABC都是其性格特征所决定的,而不是其素养问题,故排除。

点评:在与他人交往中,我们需具备一些受欢迎的品质,如:真诚、理解、体贴、热情、友好、不自私等等,本题选项的设置非常生活化,紧密结合学生的交往实际,有利于指导学生学会与他人交往,获得广泛的友谊。

多项选择题 案例分析题

一般资料:求助者,女性,27岁,公司职员。案例介绍:求助者不合群,经常和父母、同事、客户发生矛盾,人际关系紧张。最近又因琐事与同事发生矛盾,很生气,也为此痛苦,主动来心理咨询。下面是心理咨询师与该求助者的一段对话:心理咨询师:你认为你生气的原因是什么?求助者:主要是和同事搞不好关系,有些人总爱挑我的毛病,我比较能干,在公司的业绩不错,别人嫉妒我,就常常因为一些小事和我过不去。心理咨询师:是别人挑你的毛病造成你生气吗?求助者:那当然是,如果别人不挑我的毛病,我怎么会生气?心理咨询师:我们来看一个例子,假若某一天,你在咖啡店里喝咖啡,这时走过来一个人,把你的咖啡碰洒了,你会怎样想?求助者:我会很生气,这个人怎么这样不小心。心理咨询师:但如果你知道他是个盲人,你又会怎样呢?求助者:盲人啊……盲人是看不见的,我想我会原谅他。心理咨询师:你看,咖啡洒了,无论什么原因它就是一件事,但由于不同的认知结果,就会产生不同的情绪。所以,对事物的认知,才是引起情绪的真正原因。求助者:是这样吗?(沉默)你说的好像有道理。心理咨询师:人对生活中发生的事件都会有些看法,有的是合理的,有的是不合理的,不同的认识会导致不同的情绪状态。如果你认识到自己现在的情绪状态是一些不合理的认知所造成的,通过改变它你就能控制自己的情绪。求助者:真会这样吗?心理咨询师:你遇到的那些事,别人也可能遇到,但别人不一定都像你现在这样子,你说这是怎么回事?求助者:你是说我和他们的认识不一样吗?可我还没看出我对别人挑我毛病的认识有哪些不合理的地方。心理咨询师:这正是下一步要讨论的问题。你冷静地想一下,你和同事关系很紧张的原因是什么?求助者:那些人总爱挑我的毛病。心理咨询师:你不许人家挑你毛病的理由是什么呢?求助者:我工作做得好,客户多,他们凭什么挑我的毛病?心理咨询师:你可以希望别人不挑你的毛病,但你不能不许别人挑你的毛病。求助者:对别人不能提出要求吗?心理咨询师:你可以对别人提出要求,但是你要求你对别人怎样,别人就应该对你怎样,这是一种不合理的信念,一种绝对化的要求,因为我们无法要求别人必须为我们做什么。如果我们把对别人的"要求"变成"希望",当我们不希望的事发生时,最多是一种失望,不会过分地怨恨别人,自己也就不会生气了。求助者:您讲得很对,但我担心自己做不到这点。您说这毛病能改吗?心理咨询师:你的问题是长期形成的,要想很快改变是困难的。但是只要在实践中不断改变,从一点一滴做起,出现反复不要灰心,贵在坚持,一定会达到理想效果的。

"人对生活中发生……通过改变它你就能控制自己的情绪",在这里心理咨询师使用的技术包括()。

A.内容表达

B.指导

C.内容反应

D.释义

选择题

At the age of 11, Peter Lynch started caddying(当球童) at Brae Burn Country Club in Newton, Mass. “It was better than a newspaper carrier, and much more profitable,” the Fidelity vice chairman recalls. He kept it up during the summers for almost a decade. “You get to know the course and can give the golf players advice about how to approach various holes,” he says. “Where else, at age 15 or 16, can you serve as a trusted adviser to high-powered people?”

One of those people was George Sullivan, then president of Fidelity’s funds, who was so impressed with Lynch’s smarts that he hired him in 1966. “There were about 75 applicants for 3 job openings,” Lynch says now. “But I was the only one who had caddied for the president for 10 years.”

In between caddying and managing money, Lynch went to Boston College on a scholarship from a program called the Francis Ouimet Fund. Named after the 1913 winner of the U.S. Open, the fund launched in 1949 which is open to Massachusetts kids only. Ouimet executive director Robert Donovan says, “Help with college is a logical extension of friendly relation between golfers and their favorite caddies, because there is a close tie to train up them to be excellent that happens between the players and the kids who carry their golf poles. And for the teens, caddying is all about being around successful role models.”

It is obvious that caddies who are finally successful include all kinds of outstanding personnel, from actor Bill Murray, to New York Times columnist Thomas Friedman, to former GE chairman and CEO Jack Welch.

Of course, the great number of financial giants who caddied in their youth might be coincidence, but Dick Connolly thinks not. “Caddying life teaches you a lot about business, and about life,” he says. “You learn to show up early and look people in the eye when you shake their hand, and you learn how to read people -- including who’s likely to cheat and who isn’t.” Connolly is a longtime investment advisor at Morgan Stanley’s Boston office, a former Ouimet scholarship student and, along with Peter Lynch and Roger Altman, one of the program’s biggest supporters. He wants to share the most important lesson he learned on the links, so he says: “One golfer I caddied for told me that if you want to succeed in any field -- golf or business -- you have to spend a lot of lonely hours, either practicing or working, when you’d rather be partying with your friends. That’s true, and it stuck with me.”

小题1:Which of the following may Peter Lynch agree about caddying?

A.He could have a relaxing job as a caddie.

B.He could make more money from the golf players.  

C.His duty was to advise the players how to play golf.

D.His caddying experiences contributed to his later career.小题2:Why was the Francis Ouimet Fund set up to support Massachusetts kids only?

A.Because of the advice from the rich golf players.

B.Because of those giants with caddying experiences.

C.Because of the great success the caddies have achieved.

D.Because of the friendly relation between golfers and their caddies.小题3:According to Dick Connolly, caddying experience in your youth_____.

A.helps you learn to live with loneliness

B.teaches you a lot about business and life

C.makes it possible to meet with great people

D.offers you chances to communicate with others小题4:Which of the following may be the best title for the passage?

A.Legend of Peter Lynch.

B.An introduction of Golf Caddying.

C.Golf Caddying into Future Success.

D.Five Giants with Caddying Experiences.